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Internet Dating

Internet dating seems to be the new era in "boy meets girl". But does it work. Well, if you watch tv, Eharmony and Match.com they tell you it is they way to start your life, or start your life again, with the person of your dreams. Sorry, but I don't think so. With the thousands and thousands of people that subscribe to these services they say, I'll bet the matches that get married are less than one tenth of one percent.

You have a better chance meeting someone walking down the street in my opinion. Listen, I spent twenty years in the bar, nightclub, and restaurant business, and I am here to tell you it is all about chemistry. But you already know that.

But with the world changing such as it has, the forty hour work week went to fifty or sixty hours as the norm. Factor in that you have to sleep, do laundry, eat, pick up the dry cleaning, do your banking, and take care of the kids if that applies, where is the time to meet someone?

Alas, internet dating. Let's face it, you can shop on line, in your underwear, and in the comfort of your home, for the person of your dreams or even just a date. Not!

And how many times have I heard, "I'm tired of the bar scene". Or "I never meet anyone in the bars, they are all jerks". Or, "the bar scene isn't me". Or, "I'm too old for the bar scene anymore". Do all these sound familiar?

Let's face it, if you go online, fill out whatever, and make your shopping list of what I want, a young, tall, dark, handsome/pretty confident, smart, sexual man/woman that is wealthy, and someone replies, what are you going to do?

Are you going to trade a few emails and actually meet them? Probably not. These days, you never know who you might meet on the internet. And we all have heard the war stories about that on the news. So what to do?

I'm not blasting internet dating. The point I am trying to get across is this. No matter what picture you send in for this, is it going to work? We are human beings and we rely on our senses. What are you going to do with just a picture and a bio that someone writes?

When we meet people in person we give then the once over. Don't we? What their posture is like, their smile, their eyes, are they dressed nice, are they clean, and we get a feeling about them. If you happen to speak to the person, even if you are moving over to allow them to sit a chair, or saying hello, or asking for help, their is human contact. We give people the once over many times a day. It only takes a moment. What is the saying, you only have one chance to make a good impression.

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Even if you see a picture online and said to yourself, boy is he/she good looking. I want to me him/her. Hubba Hubba! What are you going to get? Let me put it this way. Have you ever been anywhere where you noticed a man/woman and were instantly attracted to them? You kept saying to yourself, boy is she/he good looking! I would let that person put their shoes under my bed! Of course you have.

But have you have seen someone that you thought was so attractive, met them and said, what a jerk? Of course you have. Some people are blessed with great looks, but are people you wouldn't want to be with at all. Their personality was over bearing, the conversation was all about me, me, me. They were rude, cheap, a psychopath, and disrespectful. See what I mean?

Please don't get me wrong. I'm just trying to make a point here. This is not to say that every good looking person is that way. No! My point is that you can't tell a book by its cover.So how do you know what you are going to run into with internet dating? In turn, have you ever been somewhere and was introduced to someone that you didn't even take a second look at when they walked in and found them to be kind, funny, confident, polite, and sexy? No, they weren't the obvious choice in an outward appearance, but is the human interaction that makes things work.

So don't give up on the bars. And if that is not your choice, join a club, a church, donate your time to a good cause. You will never know you may meet, personally. So don't keep sitting in the house and wishing someone was there to spend the evening with. You have to get out there. You have to interact with people.

Being lonely is by far the worst feeling in the world. By far! And if you are home and wishing someone was there, then you have to do something about it. I know you are tires from a long week. Lord knows. But consider it as your little part time job. You have to get out and meet people because mr. or ms. right is not going to drop in out of nowhere. You have to make it happen. Try internet dating if you want to, but still get out in public. Between both of them, you won't be lonely too much longer.

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