Needing closure at the end of a relationship is something that, the person who has been let go, most of the time requires. But in many relationships that have ended, closure is not something that the one who is walking away cares to give to the other.
How rude people have become through the years. Some even say it is the mark of a coward. So if the shoe fits...? After professing your love for someone, then feeling as if it is not working, is life. And life happens. But that person you once loved deserves some sort of understanding of what just happened.
For some, they feel threatened by having such a private conversation with a new ex. In that case, it is understandable. Although some are afraid of confrontation that they have initiated. However, this is part of loving. The old saying goes, "if you want to dance, then you have to pay the fiddler". Allowing a person you once loved so dearly to have closure is necessary.
Needing closure is normal, especially if the time spent together was long, and is a way for people to come to terms with all of it.
Now on the other side of this coin, if a person broke up with you, that is closure. Period! What more needs to be said? They are done, and said they didn't love you anymore, and it was over. There isn't really a lot more to be said here. I know, needing closure is basically a final talk, a time to say good-bye, or I'm sorry, or whatever else you feel needs to be said.
But in this day and age, people are pretty selfish. It's all about me, me, me.
But all in all, it's over. No matter, nothing changes, and it's still over. And even if you want to say nice a nice goodbye, that person has already left. So really, there is no needing closure and you already have it.
It's a sad state of affairs when two people part. But as in life, nothing is forever. It's funny though, as no matter how hurt we know we might get, or how sad or lonely it would be without this person in your life, we go back for more. Yes, we try again when the opportunity knocks, as nothing can replace these feelings of love we desire.
We are emotional beings and our desire to love and be loved leads us to a possibility of more heartache. And one day, when the hurt has faded, and the bitterness has subsided, you will look fondly upon the good times you shared with the loves in your life, not the bad, as love remembers.
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